Q: How can I let my listener know that I'm referring to him/her?
A: The best strategy in a face-to-face situation is NOT to use any second person pronoun or use a generic reference method: /Name +
さん/ (e.g., スミスさん) or /Name + title/ (e.g., 田中先生). (Don't put さん or title to refer to yourself, of course.) The last names are used more commonly than the first names.
Q: What if I don't know the other's name?
A: If you don't know the name of the other person, then just use role terms (先生, おきゃくさま, etc.) if known or speak without usng ANY second-person reference. Since natural conversation in Japanese does not require you to specify the subject in sentences, this will not cause any confusion in most cases. Formal (business) language to be introduced in Advanced Japanese can also be used to avoid any potential confusion whom you are referring to. |